Before I start ranting, I’ll admit when people state the following that they are most likely trying to help or provide some sort of comfort and support and/ or don’t understand Mental Illness which is fine… I guess.
But hands up if you’ve ever heard the following;
“It’s in your head!”
“You need to think happier thoughts/ stop thinking so negative!”
“Why are you depressed? you have great Friends/ a great life (further examples) so why are you depressed?”
” You don’t need to be anxious! just quit being so scared over it!”
“Think happier thoughts!”
” Just eat healthier and get more sleep/exercise. You’ll be better after.”
“Why do you need medication? it’s not necessary”
“Don’t be on medication for too long!”
“You can change your thinking, you just need to try harder.”
“Why are you so scared of (example?) it’s so silly! ”
I know there are heaps more things that have been said to me but I can’t think of them right now. Have you ever had these said to you? how did it make you feel?
Personally, these statements frustrate me to no end. I just want to scream when I hear them! Do you think I want to be anxious? do you think I want to be depressed even when yes I do have good Friends and that? Why are you frustrated if I’m on Medication for a long time? it helps me function better than I would off them so why does that bother you? you don’t think I’m already trying as hard as I can to change the way I think?
People do want to help as I said above and that I know, but statements like what I’ve listed to need to stop as it can make us feel worse, can increase our anger/ anxiety and other things. Please, if you do wish to help please just listen and if we ask for advice please give it. Sometimes, we just want someone to rant to and share our feelings with, we don’t want statements such as above. By the way if you’re one of those who wants to help people like us, thank you. You need a medal!
Sorry for such a short post. Attention span of a brick again.
Until Next Time!
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