Anxiety and coping.. well… trying to
The thing that makes you stop wanting to do what you want to do, which not doing it makes you anxious. The thing that stops you from doing everyday things and/ or things that others might find pleasurable and the thing that causes intense stress over specific things.
For example, I have a severe thunderstorm phobia and I want to conquer my fear as much as possible but facing my fear will make me anxious so I won’t do it which in turn makes me more anxious because I fear it will be this way forever and I’ll never get over my phobia. Make sense?
I also have anxiety over what people think of me and if people like me which I think can cause a bit of awkwardness sometimes. This is weird as sometimes I really couldn’t give a crap about what people think. This can be confusing!
To add to the list I also have anxiety over anxiety and being anxious which causes intense stress and overthinking, which causes more anxiety. Not fun, I can tell you that.
So, how do I deal with this? in all honesty, sometimes good and sometimes really, really not good at all. But that’s okay, we’re only human.. you can only try!
I’ll share with you some calming techniques I’ve learnt over the years that could work for you;
- Breathe. You breathe all the time but when your anxious your breathing increases by, well a lot ( not too sure how to word this one) so take deep breaths. Breathe in for around seven seconds ( count this in your head) and breathe out for ten seconds. Can’t do this? no worries! just breathe in less than you breathe out.
- Talk. Talk to a Friend, Family member, online counselor, in person counselor or anyone else you can think of. Talk out what your feeling to them, spill everything if you want to! you’d be surprised by how this can work. They could talk through how your feeling and discuss with you ways to calm yourself down.
- Write. Into writing? write down how you feel and what’s going through your head, transferring your thoughts from brain to paper can assist you in working out your situation and what to do about it.
- Funny pictures/ videos. Something to distract you for a bit could be beneficial in making you feel better and calming your thoughts. Even if it doesn’t work, it’ll defer your situation until your ready to face it again. Is this good advice? not too sure. 😦
Anxiety is not easy. It really is not. It’s not a easy fix and takes dedication to work through but coping strategies can be developed to help you face your anxieties better and have a little more piece of mind. I’m learning this day by day and will share any progress with you, good or bad.
Until next time! 😀